AUTHENTICITY—how we find the people that are truly meant to be in our lives. To be authentic, means to attract people who love you for you. The people who strive to understand your experiences, or who were there with you throughout them--who have seen your best, your worst, your everything in between. And are still here. Still care. Still love. Still listen.
Friendship is two-sided--It takes two people deciding that the other person is worth having in their lives, and takes making the effort to have them there.
To listen when needed, and to speak when seeking support. It can be hard to find these individuals, but they come when you strive to be your most authentic self. I have been privileged to meet some of these people early on in my life, as for some, it takes years to form these types of relationships and to open themselves up to another.
This one is for all of you who have been by my side, and for all of those who have shared their lives with me—with trust, compassion, and endless effort.
TO THOSE who may not completely understand the anxious emotions you may be explaining to them, but who listen and offer their support.
That trust that they are real—and worthy of giving value to.
TO THOSE who are patient when it takes you thirty minutes to get out the door to meet them because you had to get your “checking routine” perfectly, and woke up with an anxious heart making it take that much longer.
TO THOSE who get you out of the house to see some live music, because they know that is your soul food.
TO THOSE who feel safe with you, because they know you locked the doors 5 times before leaving, and that the oven is definitely off.
TO THOSE who validate your emotions.
Friends who are patient.
Friends who care.
TO THOSE who are living with their own illnesses, and allow space for equal conversation of experience. Sharing the differences between what you may be experiencing, and the similarities—but never comparing.
TO THOSE who “get you” when you say that you’re still thinking about whether the door was locked, because well, they are too.
TO THOSE who check in to make sure you are doing ok, that follow-up on whether you got your meds or made it to your appointment this week.
TO THOSE that ask about that event you went to with that person, because they know that it was a potential trigger or that you felt particularly anxious about it.
TO THOSE that push themselves to be in your life, and that appreciate your shared efforts.
Friends who trust you.
TO THOSE who meet you in a café on campus during your panic attack, to listen without the fear that others are judging the fact that you are crying in public.
TO THOSE who bring a book for you to borrow when you hang out, because they know you will like it.
TO THOSE who challenge you and aren’t afraid to tell you their honest opinion.
TO THOSE who send you bath bombs, because they know the effort it takes to make time for a bath amidst a work or school week.
TO THOSE who know what you are referring to when you say that the anxiety you are feeling reminds you of that other time, because they’ve been by your side so damn long.
TO THOSE that teach you that it is ok to feel.
That it is ok to seek help.
Who feel comfortable sharing their mental health experiences with you and trust that you will respond with compassion.
And the friends that challenge you to be the best friend that you can be as well.
THANK YOU to all who have shared their wellness journeys with me, and to all who have been a part of mine. You rock, and I am always here.
Who are you thankful for? Who has influenced your wellness journey? What do you love about them? What have they taught you?
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